Newspaper features and other posts
Independent feature, June 6, 2023 - Breaking the Midlife Rules
Why is it that the heroines of fiction are rarely menopausal women? Best-selling author Joanne Harris asked the same question and when she wrote her new book Broken Light she made sure her 49-year-old protagonist had a super power.
In her page-turning thriller, Harris casts an eagle eye on society’s attitudes to women in midlife and by giving her main character, Bernie, a power she’d suppressed all her life, she upends the...
My Midlife awakening - May 2023, IMAGE magazine
My midlife awakening: ‘Who the hell am I now?’
"Discovering who we are can be a confusing thing for a woman. Partly because we are plugged into the patriarchal matrix from the moment we are born, shackled to the societal expectations of what a Good Girl should do and look like. And partly because we can get to a point when our sense of identity is more often than not defined by our relationship with others – daughter, sister, mother, wife, partner. It’s not easy for...
The decision that may decide the rest of your life.
A huge part of what I do as a coach for women in midlife is help them find clarity around the best decisions they can make for themselves now, and in the future.
I don’t just mean the big decisions at a crossroads - What do I need at this age, at this stage of my life? What’s next? Who am I and how do I learn to thrive after years of being on survival mode?
I also mean the small but so significant ones. Ones that may feel minor at the time, but end up having such a huge...
Lessons I've learned about ageing
Hooray! I'm 53!
My birthday started with early morning yoga and ended with late night bubbles... not a bad birthday sandwich for 53.
I can't tell you how happy I am to be here, still standing (actually, dancing) feeling so grateful to be where I am, and so full of potential for what's ahead.
I can only imagine what my 13, 23 and even 33 year old selves would have thought about this age. They'd likely have thought I'd be devastated, simpering with sorrow as I retreated into...
Dating after 50. Facing the trauma of Tinder? Midlife dating can be daunting, but it doesnโt have to be.
When my marriage ended, I looked at my 45 year old reflection in the mirror and wondered how I was ever going to summon up enough courage, confidence and concealer to date again. I googled solitary retreats before pulling the duvet back over my head. The last time I’d dated was almost last century, when a swipe left meant I’d been graciously groped.
We now have an extra 20/30 years of life expectancy, to be lived in the middle, not the end of our lives, so it’s...
Independent feature, 12th July 2022 - Dating in midlife
This is the feature from The Irish Independent from 12th July 2022... fantastic to get a few radio interviews as a result.
The truth about dating after 50: Some men are just looking for a place to live
Dating when you’re older is not for the faint-hearted, but there is also a freedom to create a relationship that suits your needs, writes the Midlife Coach, Alana Kirk
At midlife, many people find themselves searching for ‘the one’. Again. A new...
