Standing strong. Defiant almost.
“Look at me! I don’t need anyone’s help.”
Like a rock being bashed in a restless sea, it can sometimes feel easier to go it alone, to not be vulnerable. I certainly did (although I was less rock, and more tiny tropical island with a Gin bar).
But I learned a valuable lesson. No matter how alone we can feel (or want to be), we are actually never alone.
Like the rock is a resting place for gulls, a shelter for crabs, an intrinsic part of the landscape, a pathway for the sea, so we are all connected. We are all grounded in something bigger than ourselves. Just as I rely on the world around me, so I am responsible for it. Just as people impact me, so I impact them. I have a responsibility to live the best life I can.
Asking for help isn’t weak; it shows strength of character.
Leaning on someone’s shoulder isn’t being a burden; it’s bravely vulnerable.
Taking instead of always giving isn’t selfish; it’s self-love.
If you need a hug, ask for one with a smile, knowing you’ll always offer one if needed.
If you need some space to think thoughts by yourself, take it. You owe yourself before you owe anyone else.
If you need your tribe around you, gather them.
If you need to invest in support, invest. You have invested in many other’s emotional banks; make sure your own is kept topped up.
We have one life, and it is never lived alone. There’s usually another rock nearby, connected by pebbles and sea and an array of life.
As Shrii Shrii Anandamurt, Indian philosopher put it; “You are never alone or helpless. The force that guides the stars guides you too.”